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Message ID: 9825
Date: 2015-05-03

Author:Carolee Gadsby

Subject:Re: Why do we move foster children so often? Should we move them less often? How?

Please excuse my response as it is blunt and I'm only a Mom. But I was a foster mom for yrs, meet a lot of foster parents, was prez of the ass. ... The list goes on. But one thing I can tell you is some foster parents expect the child/children to be perfect .... And when they are not... The ask them to be moved 😥 I am very aware of this problem as I would take the "hard to place" children in my home and also babysat during the day for other foster parents who needed a break from the children in their home.... Some would bring me their kids daily from 7-7 I do know there are problems on all levels of the system but this is an issue that truly hurts my heart. Btw.... I adopted out at 10 kids between bio and adopted. Many of mine are "special" ..... VERY special to me! Carolee :) Sent from my iPad On Apr 30, 2015, at 2:13 PM, Edward Opton > wrote: Frequent changes of placement seem to be a fact of life for America's foster children--five, ten, even twenty or more moves. Why? What can be done to reduce the frequency of moves? Are frequent moves beyond our control, like the fact that the sun is visible in the daytime but cannot be seen at night, and so hardly worth discussing? Or is the practice of moving children frequently worthy of investigation and action? If so, who has written about it most cogently? Edward Opton, Ph.D., J.D. PsychDrugs Action National Center for Youth Law 405 14th Street, 15th Floor, Oakland, CA 94612 Phone: (510) 899-6583 Fax: (510) 835-8099 youthlaw.org

Please excuse my response as it is blunt and I'm only a Mom. But I was a foster mom for yrs, meet a lot of foster parents, was prez of the ass. ... The list goes on. But one thing I can tell you is some foster parents expect the child/children to be perfect .... And when they are not... The ask them to be moved 😥 I am very aware of this problem as I would take the "hard to place" children in my home and also babysat during the day for other foster parents who needed a break from the children in their home.... Some would bring me their kids daily from 7-7 I do know there are problems on all levels of the system but this is an issue that truly hurts my heart. Btw.... I adopted out at 10 kids between bio and adopted. Many of mine are "special" ..... VERY special to me! Carolee :) Sent from my iPad On Apr 30, 2015, at 2:13 PM, Edward Opton > wrote: Frequent changes of placement seem to be a fact of life for America's foster children--five, ten, even twenty or more moves. Why? What can be done to reduce the frequency of moves? Are frequent moves beyond our control, like the fact that the sun is visible in the daytime but cannot be seen at night, and so hardly worth discussing? Or is the practice of moving children frequently worthy of investigation and action? If so, who has written about it most cogently? Edward Opton, Ph.D., J.D. PsychDrugs Action National Center for Youth Law 405 14th Street, 15th Floor, Oakland, CA 94612 Phone: (510) 899-6583 Fax: (510) 835-8099 youthlaw.org