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Message ID: 8348
Date: 2010-01-21

Author:lfontesrcn.com

Subject:Re: Good touch - bad touch

It's confusing and innaccurate to use these terms. Sometimes sexual touches feel good. Sometimes the sexual touches are the best feeling touches in the entire family (better than a slap in the face) Sometimes children think they're bad if they've participated in a "bad touch" (as the touched or as the one who has been forced to touch). Better to describe touches without the judgment, in terms of what parts were touched, etc. Also...a lot of what happens these days in terms of sexual exploitation does not involve "touching" per se. It may involve photographs, videos, licking, and other acts. I do happen to think the Good touch/Bad touch curriculum is quite good in many ways. It's vastly more complex and subtle than its name would indicate. Hope this helps. Lisa Fontes, Ph.D. ---- Original message ---- >Date: Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:08:21 -0500 >From: >Subject: Good touch - bad touch >To: , > > We're working with our partners on the issue of > "Good Touch - Bad Touch" -- can anyone help with > research that articulates why the wording and > message may be problematic when working with > children? > > Thanks for your help. > > Mike > Michael L. Haney Ph.D, NCC, LMHC > Division Director for Prevention and Intervention > Children's Medical Services > Florida Department of Health > 4052 Bald Cypress Way Bin A06 > Tallahassee, FL 32399 > Office: 850-245-4217 > Fax: 850-414-7350 > "Life should be a journey to the grave not with the > intention of arriving in a pretty well preserved > body, but arriving thoroughly used up, sliding in > broadside proclaiming 'WOW, WHAT A RIDE'!!" > Mission Statement: Promote, protect and improve the > health of all people in Florida. > ********************************************************* > Please note: Florida has a very broad public records > law. Most written communications to or from state > officials regarding state business are public > records available to the public and media upon > request. Your e-mail communications may therefore be > subject to public disclosure. > > > > ------------------------------------------------ > > For up-to-date information about H1N1 Swine Flu > visit http://www.myflusafety.com or call 877 352 > 3581

It's confusing and innaccurate to use these terms. Sometimes sexual touches feel good. Sometimes the sexual touches are the best feeling touches in the entire family (better than a slap in the face) Sometimes children think they're bad if they've participated in a "bad touch" (as the touched or as the one who has been forced to touch). Better to describe touches without the judgment, in terms of what parts were touched, etc. Also...a lot of what happens these days in terms of sexual exploitation does not involve "touching" per se. It may involve photographs, videos, licking, and other acts. I do happen to think the Good touch/Bad touch curriculum is quite good in many ways. It's vastly more complex and subtle than its name would indicate. Hope this helps. Lisa Fontes, Ph.D. ---- Original message ---- >Date: Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:08:21 -0500 >From: >Subject: Good touch - bad touch >To: , > > We're working with our partners on the issue of > "Good Touch - Bad Touch" -- can anyone help with > research that articulates why the wording and > message may be problematic when working with > children? > > Thanks for your help. > > Mike > Michael L. Haney Ph.D, NCC, LMHC > Division Director for Prevention and Intervention > Children's Medical Services > Florida Department of Health > 4052 Bald Cypress Way Bin A06 > Tallahassee, FL 32399 > Office: 850-245-4217 > Fax: 850-414-7350 > "Life should be a journey to the grave not with the > intention of arriving in a pretty well preserved > body, but arriving thoroughly used up, sliding in > broadside proclaiming 'WOW, WHAT A RIDE'!!" > Mission Statement: Promote, protect and improve the > health of all people in Florida. > ********************************************************* > Please note: Florida has a very broad public records > law. Most written communications to or from state > officials regarding state business are public > records available to the public and media upon > request. Your e-mail communications may therefore be > subject to public disclosure. > > > > ------------------------------------------------ > > For up-to-date information about H1N1 Swine Flu > visit http://www.myflusafety.com or call 877 352 > 3581