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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Well, I was thinking of another kind of phenomenon:
that of dad-girlfriend (or paramour) who wants to severe all relationships of
her "man" with the former wife or companion, and has to deal with their
common offspring/s. In that case instead of an all-out confrontation of the type
"me or they", she may be tempted (or driven - by her personality, the situation,
the continuous confrontation with the kids etc. etc. -) to mount a case either
against the children, or against the former spouse or companion through the
children. </FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>In the first case she will harass the children
while dad isn't at home and/or excite dad against them by mounting faked cases
("Antonio has been utterly unbearable all day long, Gina is horribly lazy, she
answer me all the time and allies with her brother to crucify me" and the like):
dad will react in an increasingly harsh way, until the time he will begin
beating the children, a legal feud will ensue which will be won by the other
parent; dad's girlfriend will the winner because children will go away, and she
will be justified in describing the whol affair as a blatant case of prejudiced
judges and utter maliciousness by "his" former spouse.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>In the second case she will instead mount a case of
her paramour children being maltreated or - more frequently - sexually
molested by someone of the former spouse family. I've seen this happening in a
few cases in the past, and I had one such case; the man was a police official,
the woman a nurse who later had a story with a doctor and again she did weird
things again. In this case, the girlfriend goal is that of securing all what her
"man" wants, while at the same time destroying for good and forever the "other".
I don't know if this phenomenon is a typical italian (to my knowledge it is
associated with divorce proceedings) phenomenon, or it is a more diffused one.
It is a sort of "SnowWhite bad Mum" + something else.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Virginio </FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>Dr. Virginio ODDONE, M.D.<BR>V. Avogadro 6<BR>10121
- Torino (Italy)<BR>e-mail: <A
href="mailto:oddovir@ipsnet.it";>oddovir@ipsnet.it</A><BR> <A
href="mailto:medico.legale@cto.to.it";>medico.legale@cto.to.it</A><BR> <BR>******************<BR>J'ai
enfin le droit de saluer des êtres que je ne connais pas<BR>Ils passent devant
moi et s'accumulent au loin<BR>Tandis que tout ce que j'en vois m'est
inconnu<BR>Et leur espoir n'est pas moins fort que le mien.<BR>(Apollinaire, Le
musicien de Saint-Merry.)<BR> <BR> <BR>Per loro natura tutti gli
uomini desiderano di sapere.<BR>All men by nature desire to know<BR>Tous les
hommes désirent naturellement de savoir.<BR>(Aristotele, Metafisica, Libro I, I,
1).<BR></FONT></DIV>
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<A title=lonnie@theexodusteam.com
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A
title=child-maltreatment-research-l@list.cornell.edu
href="mailto:child-maltreatment-research-l@list.cornell.edu";>Child
Maltreatment Researchers</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Wednesday, July 02, 2008 5:33
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> RE: perpetrators</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV><BR>It is not really a joke. I am personally aware of a
case where a dad's young live-in girlfriend got pregnant by the sixteen year
old son (of her boyfriend) with whom she had been having sex with since he was
12 years old. The boy's father had no idea what was going
on. There are cases out there.<BR>
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webmail="1">-------- Original Message --------<BR>Subject: Re:
perpetrators<BR>From: "Oddone" <<A
href="mailto:oddovir@ipsnet.it";>oddovir@ipsnet.it</A>><BR>Date: Wed, July
02, 2008 3:13 am<BR>To: "Child Maltreatment Researchers"<BR><<A
href="mailto:child-maltreatment-research-l@list.cornell";>child-maltreatment-research-l@list.cornell</A>.edu>,<BR><<A
href="mailto:DSTONE@hsph.harvard";>DSTONE@hsph.harvard</A>.edu><BR><BR>Why
not "DAD GIRLFRIEND" too? If I may dare to try a joke, I would say
that<BR>avoiding to mention her is a proof of anti-masculine bias (please:
it is a<BR>joke, attempted by an old italian physician, whose english is
failing). On a <BR>more serious plane, in my<BR>past experience all erotic
"friends" (of both genders) of any of the<BR>biological parents may turn out
to be both initiators and perpetrators of<BR>any form of abuse on their
"friend" offspring.<BR><BR>As for lumping together some of your categories,
you might refer to the<BR>family circles: but this might be a typically
"legal italian" usage. Here in<BR>Italy, we speak of "nuclear family"
(parents/adult caregivers-children) and <BR>"extended family"<BR>which
comprises relatives up to the 4th degree (i.e. grand
parents,<BR>aunts/uncles and so-called "first cousins" i.e. the children
of<BR>aunts/uncles, and in-laws). Around them, there are the "caregiving"
figures <BR>and groups (teachers, nurses, doctors, or - in the case of
already critical <BR>families - the support networks). In this way you would
emphasize not the <BR>formal status of the person (her/his being an uncle, a
close relative etc.), <BR>but her/his closeness to the victim, its daily
life and the perpetrator's <BR>involvement in rearing the
victim.<BR><BR>Unfortunately, in all these family matters there isn't "the
one best way", <BR>because Homo Sapiens Sapiens has a tendency to organize
and reorganize its <BR>family life in the most astonishing ways, so that
whatever your choice you <BR>will loose something of it.<BR><BR>Best
wishes,<BR><BR><BR><BR>Dr. Virginio ODDONE, M.D.<BR>V. Avogadro 6<BR>10121 -
Torino (Italy)<BR>e-mail: <A
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enfin le droit de saluer des êtres que je ne connais pas<BR>Ils passent
devant moi et s'accumulent au loin<BR>Tandis que tout ce que j'en vois m'est
inconnu<BR>Et leur espoir n'est pas moins fort que le mien.<BR>(Apollinaire,
Le musicien de Saint-Merry.)<BR><BR><BR>Per loro natura tutti gli uomini
desiderano di sapere.<BR>All men by nature desire to know<BR>Tous les hommes
désirent naturellement de savoir.<BR>(Aristotele, Metafisica, Libro I, I,
1).<BR><BR>----- Original Message ----- <BR>From: "Deborah Stone" <<A
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"Child Maltreatment Researchers"<BR><<A
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Tuesday, July 01, 2008 5:22 PM<BR>Subject: perpetrators<BR><BR><BR>> I'm
trying to figure out how to categorize perpetrators of physical and<BR>>
sexual abuse (see list below) in an analysis and was wondering if
anyone<BR>> has any advice how to do this. It seems one way is just to
look at<BR>> parental figures/caregivers versus other but what about
mother's boyfriend<BR>> or grandparent, foster parent, etc..? Should I
lump these all together or<BR>> is it best to keep them<BR>> in their
own categories? I'll check the literature as well. Thanks.<BR>><BR>>
The list of potential perpetrators and possible categories includes:<BR>>
Parent figure/caregiver:<BR>> MOTHER<BR>> FATHER<BR>>
STEP-MOTHER<BR>> STEP-FATHER<BR>> MOM'S BOYFRIEND<BR>> OUT-OF-HOME
CAREGIVER (E.G., FOSTER PARENT) OR GROUP CARE PROVIDER<BR>> CHILD CARE
PROVIDER<BR>><BR>> Other relatives:<BR>> GRANDMOTHER<BR>>
GRANDFATHER<BR>> AUNT<BR>> UNCLE<BR>> OTHER
RELATIVE<BR>><BR>> Other adults:<BR>> FRIEND<BR>>
STRANGER<BR>> NEIGHBOR<BR>><BR>> Siblings/Peers:<BR>>
BROTHER<BR>> SISTER<BR>> OTHER CHILD IN OUT-OF-HOME CARE<BR>>
BIOLOGICAL CHILD OF FOSTER PARENTS<BR>> OTHER FOSTER
CHILD<BR>><BR>><BR>> Deb Stone, MPH, MSW<BR>> Suicide Prevention
Training Consultant<BR>> MA Department of Public Health<BR>> Suicide
Prevention Program<BR>><BR>> Doctoral Candidate<BR>> Harvard School
of Public Health<BR>> 617.432.5683<BR>> Fax 617.432.3699<BR>> <A
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