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Re: Elderly Foster Care Providers
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It was a gut-wrenching decision and not made easily to place her in another home. I'm happy to say that she was adopted into a home about 60 miles away and her fosterparents are now 'adopted' grandparents still actively involved with her. <BR>
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None of this is to offer stats on such placements. Just an observation on a similar situation.<BR>
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BTW, I'm of the belief that considering age for adoption is not age discrimination. (And I'm an older person. :) One of the worst things about fostercare is that a child 'ages out' at 18 and is off into the world without the normal family support. Being able to drop in for a meal, wash clothes in mom's washer with all that free soap she has, take back to your apartment that 'extra' set of sheets and towels, have that home where your birthday is an important day, and know when the storms of life are blowing around you there is a safe haven is a VERY important thing. Just having a life expectancy that would likely allow you to be around until a child is 18 simply isn't enough.<BR>
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Good luck to you and your child.<BR>
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Pat Curran<BR>
Volunteer Guardian ad Litem (18 years now)<BR>
South Carolina<BR>
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In a message dated 8/30/04 10:18:24 AM, MomsBack2004@aol.com writes:<BR>
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I am looking for statistics and information on the pros and cons of elderly foster care providers (age 62 and disabled) adopting a child in the juvenile dependency system. I would prefer information not relating specifically to age, as to prevent age discrimination issues.<BR>
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Any information would be GREATLY appreciated!<BR>
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CASA Advocate<BR>
Fresno, Ca.<BR>
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